Posts tagged ‘fashion’

January 6th, 2011

I Can’t Help You!

a very angry child

angry angry child courtesy of mdanys (flickr)

I’m not normally one to turn away good business – but some times you just know it’s not going to be good.

Earlier today, I went to an appointment – I had been contacted by the mother of a 21 year old “boy”.  She did a good job of explaining things on the phone prior to me visiting with her and her son – doesn’t have a girlfriend, never had one yet, has social anxiety problems, minimal friends and so on.

Sure, I can work with him, I say – I would recommend him on my mentoring program and help him build up his social skills (he’s a video game junkie that has no job and no friends – what I call the “zombification of the real world”) and proceed into dating from there.  I’ve helped lots of other guys get through similar situations.

Well, it turns out this 21 year old “boy” – is just that – a boy.  And not just that, but one that is very angry with everyone around him – about everything that is “wrong” in his life.    Everyone else is to blame for his life that sucks.  His mom (single parent) and his grandma.  The girl across the street who won’t date him – just says “let’s be friends”.  It’s everyone else’s problem – except for his.

Let’s see here.  Twenty-One years old, no job,  and a complete lack of social skills.  To top it off, he takes absolutely no responsibility for himself around his mom’s house (where he lives, and leeches off her).  Mom does all the work, all the cleaning, all the stuff.  He plays games and complains non-stop.

Sorry, but I draw the line here.  You have to do some of this stuff on your own.  You can’t be angry with anyone but yourself for how your life is right now.  If you have a problem, you have to want to change and you have to take responsibility for that change and a responsibility for your own life.

From my “old school” way of thinking – “Man Up!“.

If you’re of adult age, you need to be responsible for your own actions and your own life.   Blaming everyone else for your problems is NOT attractive.  It never will be attractive, it will always be a turn off – and not just for women either.  It is a turn off for everyone around you.  Being responsible doesn’t mean giving up on being fun.  Being responsible is a part of being a man.  A man that demonstrates attractiveness and social strength.

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January 2nd, 2011

Be Stylish – Men’s Fashion Advice

Tweak your Style!

Let’s face it: girls like guys who wear cool clothes.

Why?

Because their outfits communicate something about them even before they open their mouth.

Ever since I found out that women are attracted mainly by personality, I was thrilled. But, when I found out the second thing they’re attracted to is style, I was in awe.

Picture this: you’re at a social gathering and you see the hottest woman there. You want to talk to her. You know you have it. You know your inner game is perfect and that she could LOVE you if she got to know you. But she walks by and she doesn’t even look at you. She passes by and doesn’t even notice you! Instead, she winks at some huge football player sitting next to you.

Let me share a secret: I know how it feels to be both the geek and the handsome guy. Let me tell you: you’re gonna make your life a LOT easier if you wear stylish clothes and take care of personal grooming. If you’ve never been picked up by a woman before then.. it had to do with the way you looked.

Women are not a bunch of robots that respond to cocky-and-funny routines! They look at how handsome the guy is and, based on that initial impression, they have an emotional response that determines how they react to what he has to say. So first impressions DO matter and, all you need to do is learn how to dress stylish.

Be Stylish! What Every Man Needs to Know about How to Look Good is the only book out there that teaches men how to dress for attraction. It takes you through all the basics: shirts, polo shirts, pants, shoes, accessories and, of course, suits. One of the coolest things about this book is that it talks a whole lot about accessories., which are men’s style’s secret weapon when it comes to meeting women.

I won’t tell you more, I’ll leave you with the link to the description page:

Be Stylish! What Every Man Needs to Know about How to Look Good

Give me your feedback after you read it, I think this could be the next breakthrough when it comes to meeting women!

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